Top 10 Reasons Why You’re Not Happy

Gabriella H.
6 min readNov 9, 2023

“Don’t pursue happiness. Create it.”

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Ever find yourself in the deep, dark recesses of morning, thinking, “Why is life so miserable?”

Do you start the day hoping those dark coffee beans will give you the energy to make it through another terrible, no good, very bad day?

If so, why are you so unhappy?

Let’s look at a few reasons why happiness seems to be so out of reach for you.

You Think You DESERVE To Be Happy

Alright, let’s make something clear: happiness isn’t a birthright; it’s not handed to you just because you exist. Life doesn’t come with a free happiness coupon.

To experience true joy, you’ve got to put in the effort. Think of it as a well-deserved reward for your hard work and determination. Your happiness is in your hands, and you have the power to shape it. So, let’s roll up those sleeves, define your path, and go out there to earn the happiness you truly deserve.

True happiness requires intentional effort and a proactive approach.

You Think That Other People Should Make You Happy

Your happiness depends on no one else but yourself. Relying on others to be the architects of your joy gives away your power.

And let’s be honest — it’s unfair to burden someone with the responsibility of your happiness. It’s a weighty task for both parties. While positive relationships can enhance your happiness, it’s crucial to have a foundation of personal contentment.

Think of it like a bank: yes, interest can boost your savings, but you need an initial deposit for it to make a significant impact. So, invest in your own happiness first, and let relationships be the joyful bonuses.

You Think Money Will Make You Happy

It’s funny how people often think that a hefty bank balance is the key to happiness. Sure, money can buy comfort and convenience, but not joy. Happiness comes from those intangible moments, the laughter, connections, and experiences that make life rich.



Gabriella H.

I’m always curious, always looking for something new to learn, using life as a learning canvas.